Insanity 101
My husband's ex wife is in town with her husband, and their son. Her family lives here locally and frequently visits us, they invite us to every family function and even got us Christmas presents. This is just damn weird to me. I think it's great if ex's can remain civil to one another, but let's face it, it's just not natural to be "friends".... is it?
Tonight the ex and her immediate family dropped by for an impromptu discussion involving some property she and my husband still own. This land has never been an issue for us as it's to be given to their children when they reach age 25. Her mother has been living on the land for the last year and feels like she is entitled to a portion of it. My husband is never going to agree to give her any of it, and they know that so they've resorted to trying to convince the boys to do it. Idiots I tell ya, like those young men could convince my husband to do such a thing.
If you're sitting there shaking your head while reading this, welcome to my world! I can't imagine my ex husband and his wife sitting on my sofa laughing and giggling with me and Tim! Oh God, I just can't fathom it. My husband is just as stunned as I am. But the rest of the clan, oh I imagine they think there's nothing wrong with this picture. It's just twisted, twisted, twisted.
These little episodes don't happen very often, but every time they do I am left feeling like this. Someone tell me, am I really the crazy one here?
posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 01.08.08 (4:10 am)
huh? you,crazy, me thinks not : )
xoxoxo
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.08.08 (6:20 am)
welcome to the twilight zone LOL. it reminds me of a funny past event.
my dh's ex wife went nutso and disappeared. we had the children, then 5 and 9. the cops were in OUR living room taking the report (her current husband didn't know too much and they came to us for more info)...they asked if there was anyone who knew her license plate number...and I was the ONLY one who did LOL. then, they asked what color her eyes were, and again, I was the ONLY one who knew.
shaking my head. life is STRANGER than fiction could ever be...
posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 01.08.08 (9:59 am)
I don't think you're crazy...Neither Mr. Nick or I would want to hang out with exes all happy and stuff. BWAHAHAA
However, my uncle's best man was my aunt's ex-husband.
posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 01.08.08 (11:56 am)
If they're both happier without each other, I can see a split being amicable.
posted by: lindy (reply)
post date: 01.10.08 (3:42 pm)
Meh. The whole point of divorce is that you didn't get along.. I had to explain to my ex-husband, as well as a couple of ex-boyfriends that trying to be friends after the fact doesn't work out. The same reasons that kept us from being friends (eventually) while we were together are the same reasons we can't be friends now. It's simple. I suppose there are exceptions to the rule, but chances are, they are screwy exceptions with a lot of baggage. You might be crazy. So might I. But *they* DEFINITELY are. ;)
posted by: scubadiva (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (7:31 am)
And people wonder why I say I don't want to date divorced men with kids?
posted by: emerging (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (10:57 am)
If you're crazy for puzzling over that bizarre situation, then I'm pretty sure I wouldn't know "sane" if it bit me on the nose. Then again, is biting someone on the nose sane??
posted by: ggirl (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (10:58 am)
My husband and his ex-wife have an amicable relationship, in part because of the necessity of continuing to parent their son and also because it's been over 30 years now that they were divorced.
Shortly after I met my husband, though, his ex suggested that she and her (third) husband and me/my husband get together for drinks. We were both horrified!
You are *so* not crazy! BTW, good to hear from you!!
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:45 pm)
Reply to: mimi
Well I dunno Mimi, some days I really wonder, heh!
:)
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:48 pm)
Reply to: fractalmom
Boy you said it When we got married I was stunned that the ex's Mom & Dad showed up, along with several other family members(granted they had been a part of my husband's life for many years but geez). However, I can see me doing the same thing you did, my husband remembers NOTHING, lol.
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:49 pm)
Reply to: rosietulips
I've heard stories involving ex's many times but I guess it's the attitude these people have that gets me, like it's just so normal?!?!
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:50 pm)
Reply to: bawdy
Very true. And as awkward as it is sometimes it's much better than bitter feelings.
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:51 pm)
Reply to: kurtmaddox
LOL I have long suspected this...
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:52 pm)
Reply to: lindy
Oh ya, they're certifiable! lol NO doubt about that, but I get the distinct impression that it is ME that they think is odd! LOL
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:53 pm)
Reply to: scubadiva
10 years ago I would have disagreed with you, now, I agree. Not that you or anyone else should totally rule out dating men with children, but give it A LOT of thought, lol.
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:54 pm)
Reply to: emerging
I think it depends on whether the moon is full or not, if it is, I think nose biting is perfectly acceptable, lol.
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 01.11.08 (2:56 pm)
Reply to: ggirl
Equally nice to hear from you :)
My Mom and Dad remained amicable for much the same reason your husband did but I still can't ever imagine them being 'friends' outside situations involving the child being cared for. But my case, these people think it's just fantastic! lol
posted by: nightbreed (reply)
post date: 01.13.08 (8:35 pm)
my ex's family is the only one i have now. they even claim my son as one of their own (he isnt but my daughter is). hell im over at his mothers right now since i cant go home due to fire. it just depends i guess..
posted by: scubadiva (reply)
post date: 01.14.08 (5:21 am)
I have utterly no desire to have kids. It's a choice. I have no patience for them. And, I would not get involved with a guy that does. Just a personal preference. I know what works for me and what doesn't.
posted by: surrogate (reply)
post date: 01.15.08 (12:02 pm)
How very uncomfortable... or at least it would be for me. If they've remained this civil, you'd think they could have stayed married... Yuck.
posted by: inkspector (reply)
post date: 02.11.08 (8:30 pm)
WOW -- so the people who want the decision are trying to use the kids to control and manipulate your husband into the answer they want? Pretty lame.
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 02.28.08 (8:10 am)
It's strange. We've some friends who regularly play cards with her ex and his new wife. And these folks even come to town and stay at their place for the weekend. And, they all come to church together! Strange. I intentionally do not check closely into this situation. Just don't want to know...
posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 02.29.08 (7:49 pm)
Reply to: PastorDave
It is strange, I sincerely don't 'get it' and don't think I ever will.
